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Cathy Reinert said:   March 13th, 2013 10:47 am I too lost my son in Dec. 2007. I know just how you feel, you (we) did everything we could to help our kids. Prays be with you!! Cathleen White said:   March 13th, 2013 9:28 am I remember her coming down and hanging out with me and Hailey when she was a baby, her face would light up every time she walked in and Hailey reached for her. Then one day she just stopped coming over. She danced into our hearts, now she is dancing in our memories.  Dave Langworth (Buddha) said:   March 25th, 2011 5:54 pm We love and miss u Ally, 3 yrs ago god got another angel.  Janine Garibaldi said:   November 29th, 2010 6:20 pm What a lovely website...unfortunately I could have written this same story myself...almostword for word...my daughter was also a graduate of Lacey High School..class of 2008 and was a competitive dancer at Ovations, (yes, a rival dance studio) for 15 years...we lost her October 5, 2010 after a year of rehabs and NA meetings....my heart goes out to you and if there is anything I can do to help please let me know...I've been seeking something to bring something positive out of her death...please contact me .....Janine  Jack Germain said:   October 3rd, 2010 2:07 pm I commend you for this very moving tribute to Ally and your continuing work on her behalf. I have her picture on my desk and think of her -- and still pray for her -- often. I found a connection to you through a message I exchanged with Ashley when I found her Facebook page. That led to me to this website. A part of me died that day when I was called out of my classroom and was told what happened to Ally. I am still angry at myself for not contacting hersooner when I hadn't heard from her in a while. I always looked forward to her calls and her often unannounced visits to my classroom before and after she graduated from LTHS. I will never forget the last time I saw her. She and her housemate met me in Toms River for breakfast one morning when they should have been working with you. In the time since then I have retired and suffered through my wife's fatal illness and passing. Allymust have helped me to find my way to your website. If I can help you and your canuhearme.org, please let me know. Janet Blocklin Horgan said:   July 8th, 2010 12:01 pm Nancy, I've thought about you, Bobby and Allyson (I didn't know about Ashley) quite often and wondered how to get in touch with you. I'm so very sorry to hear about Allyson. I remember when she was born. This website is a beautiful tribute to her. Reading what you wrote about her addiction is very scary. We always want to believe the best of our children. You talk to them constantly, but do they listen? I'm going to have my daughter read this. You are in our prayers, and may God keep watch over you. jbwritergirl said:   June 22nd, 2010 10:46 am I send to you my angel, the one who helped me through my daughter's addiction. My heart goes out to you. For ten years we fought the battle and the devil nearly won. My daughter (now 23) hit her bottom the very day she left a four month stint in rehab. Her addiction nearly stole her from us. We were one of the very lucky who by the grace of god were able to get her back. There was only a breath between her and death but my faith that my angel would find her in her darkness and bring her back won out that day. I wrote a book about surviving that 10 years. It's about hope, faith, and being strong enough to hold on to knot at the end of the rope. "Dancing With The Devil" by Jacqueline Brown is available at Amazon.com. It may inspire others who feel that there is no hope left. May you always find peace in memories and know that she is always there embedded deeply in your hearts. Jean Diamond said:   April 3rd, 2010 6:34 pm This is a beautiful tribute to your daughter. I truly believe that she is with you every day and is the real force behind your quest to help others!! You are a strong and wonderful person. If there is every anything I can do, you know I am just a phone call away. Love you! kevin rogers said:   March 11th, 2010 7:06 pm I still feel the weight on my shoulders from you i know you are watching out for me! This has kept me going from the first day i decided to check myself into rehab. This was nine months ago and have been sober ever since. I have then fond god in my life and i know you can see it all. We miss you and love you. I try to share all the love and compassion i have because you did the same thing with me without even being present! I will carring on the messeg of hope for both me and you because without you looking over me i have no clue where i would be! Cindy Y said:   March 11th, 2010 2:56 pm Dear Nancy and family, Your tribute to your beautiful daughter through this wonderful website and your advocating for substance abuse is truly inspiring. Ally is looking down on you and thanking you for helping others in their quest to fighting the battle of addiction. I admire your courage and strength to help others so that they do not have to suffer as Ally did. God Bless you and your family...XOXO ed reilly said:   March 7th, 2010 2:31 pm may gods strenght be with you and with this site we all be able to better our selfs an over come our own troubles. stay strong Mary said:   March 5th, 2010 8:31 am I identify and sympathize with your personal feelings... Struggeling with loving someone so much, but unable to help them become whole, is something of a personal battle itself. Putting up a shield of armor, boundaries and consequences, in order to avoid enableing, becomes a program of recovery that you didn't choose or sign up for. These confliction emotions of tough love haunts every day that you live with a loved one battleing addiction. May our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, grant us strength to be brave and strong! I have to say...our family has been lifted over these worries, only by the Grace of God. He continues to carry us on his wings of wisdom.  michelle joyce said:   February 24th, 2010 6:16 pm i looooooove the new site! ally would be so proud of you, aunt nancy!!! i am!! you truly are amazzzing!! and i love you so much. Jenna Pfeiffer said:   April 29th, 2009 12:14 pm We only kept in touch here & there and you were the sweetest girl. I can relate to your struggle and when I found out about what happened Icried cause it's just that real.You made an example and helped someone I just know it. Rest in peace Karen W. said:   April 13th, 2009 6:30 pm Dear Nancy and Family: I was truly inspired by this website and the tribute to your daughter. The background song is beautiful. This story is so far-reaching and will touch so many lives. I hope that you find comfort and strength in sharing the experience and admire your courage and spirit to ensure that other young people are prevented from such tragedy. Although I didn't know Ally personally, I know that she came from good parents.  Emily Verrone said:   April 12th, 2009 9:29 pm I just want to say that even though I didn't know ally too well I am really sorry about your loss but I think what you are doing is great and I will keep you in my prayers  Samantha Birkner said:   March 26th, 2009 1:34 pm Hello.. Let me start by saying that this website is beautiful & i love that your trying to reach out an help people through ally's story an allthough i didnt no her that well it still affects me...I've struggled with addiction in my family my initire life ive watched my loved ones pass an some still struggling to get passed it...I respect you so much for what your doin an admire the strength you have every day ...God bless you an your family  Darlene said:   March 25th, 2009 2:06 pm You will always be dancing in everyone's hearts who knew & loved you. God bless you & your family. Christine Genardi said:   March 25th, 2009 1:56 pm Perhaps they are not the stars, but rather openings in Heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy. Author Unknown  Kayla said:   March 23rd, 2009 9:40 pm although i never met ally i am very sorry for ur loss and this website almost made me cry. i think u and ur family are doing a beautiful thing with the Can You Hear Me foundation. my heart goes out to all of u . : ) pam p said:   February 10th, 2009 4:08 pm dear nancy and family i love u guys so much . i just wanna let u know that i always looked up to u and i love u so much your a women of much respect and alot of love to give and to recieve youve put much joy into my life and i hope god gives me the strenght to do what u do on a daily bases plese i wanna help in any way that i can u know that problem pam !!! love u  Janice Rogers said:   February 1st, 2009 8:39 pm My Dear Friend, I am so proud of your strength and courage! This website is amazing! What a truly wonderful dedication to a beautiful daughter like Ally! Always Remember: One Day At A Time...One Foot In Front Of The Other! Ally will forever be in your heart! God Bless her memory!  Haley Waters said:   January 11th, 2009 10:40 am I'm so sorry you lost your sister.Ever one loved her so much.I feel so SAD for Ashley!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Colleen said:   December 27th, 2008 10:20 am Hi Nancy, This is smile from the naranon website. Your website is very beautiful and I am thankful for people like yourself that can take a bad situation and help others like me! I am picking my husband up today from Seabrook house and I appriciate you reaching out to me. Know that you ARE helping others and I am thankful for you helping me. Hope said:   December 5th, 2008 1:49 pm Speak up, Speak up, Speak up! Do not allow the timid and insecure to silence you. We have a very big problem and our kids are dying. There is not another single health issuethat would be given this much privacy. The parents are often the last to know, until it is too late. Schools (or where ever kids congregate) should not have to fear lawsuits for calling attention to this activity. Embarrassment is a benign word compared to grief for a lifetime.  karen Ventimiglia said:   November 21st, 2008 8:05 am Nancy, Hi my name is Karen and Im on the PAB board with you. IM SO SO sorry for the loss of your Allyson. What a beautiful girl and a beautiful angel she has made in heaven. I have no idea why our children were taken from this earth way too early, i just know that we have to speak out, let others share in our pain. Let addicts know what it feels like to be a grieving mother. Maybe they wont face the same fate and maybe there families wont have to cry everyday for the rest of there lives If there is anything i can help you with dont hestitate to contact me, Love Karen  shirley Roth said:   November 21st, 2008 7:29 am dear nancy i too am a mom who lost a child to this disease. my son travis died jan 31 2007 from a prescription drug overdose. i know your pain, my sympathy and empathy to you for the loss of your beautiful daughter. shirley (a member of angels of addiction) James said:   October 31st, 2008 3:47 am The model is looking so good and all the comments are very interesting. =========================== James Drug Rehabs  Sandra said:   October 9th, 2008 4:34 pm This website is beautiful, actually gave me tears. I love it!! Ally, Nancy, Ashley, & Bob.. You have been in my life since i was at least 7-8 years old. You always welcomed me in your home with open arms and i thank you for that. Ally & Ashley always knew how to make sleep overs a blastt!! We made soooo many memories! Ill hold on to those forever! I love you all and always will! you will always be in my prayers! Ally, i miss your beautiful smiling face .. when the sun is shining i think of you and when its dark and i look up at a bright star i think of you!! i love youuu  Alan Maldonado said:   September 27th, 2008 3:30 pm Wow...I had the pleasure in life to have known Ally Joyce. I was in Iraq when she passed away and sorry for her familiy and her friends loss. She was a great people and will be missed. I pray other troubled people decide to get help before its to late and this website just might save hundreds of lives! Amanda Trout said:   September 17th, 2008 1:32 am I love the site.. and i love all the poems, they were amazing. Ally was so great at everything, she was such an awesome girl.. we all miss her and love her so much, and i think this is a great thing that you are doing. your all in my prayers, and i hope things have gotten better for the family. x0x RIP Ally Joyce. Patti Herndon with the PAB said:   September 15th, 2008 9:43 am Dear Joyce family, Through reflections of the dedicated love you share about her life...Through the commitment you show in helping others gain strength and knowledge for the journey...Allyson shines on in every moment. Deep feelings of compassion have a difficult time finding their way into words. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.  Ashley said:   September 3rd, 2008 11:00 pm Thanks everyone for the kind words. My sister was more amazing than words could every make her sound. she inspired me everyday to make the choices and follow the path that im on right now. she could light up the room with her smile. and make you laugh until you peed a little ;). its amazing how the story of our struggle not only as an addict but as a family could touch so many people. I hope that people learn and grow from our experiences. xox love the baby sister Ashley Anthony Malagoli said:   September 1st, 2008 1:32 am Nancy you are an angel on earth. God bless you and your family. I wasnt close with Ally but i am close with Ashley and Ally's passing away really opened a lot of eyes in Lacey. Thank you for being such a good influence on me and all of Ally's friends. Maybe me and Nick Batalla will stop by to see how we can help you. Julie said:   August 11th, 2008 11:32 pm Very sad, but very beautiful! Thank you for sharing your story with us. Bethany said:   August 5th, 2008 9:21 pm WOW! this website blew me away. it is AMAZING!!! even though i have never met Ally i know he would be just like the rest of her family kind, loving, talented and very greatful to have a wonderful mother. love you guys lots :)  Bob Scafidi said:   July 29th, 2008 9:58 pm As a former user myself, and having lost 3 of my friends to this poisen in one year I was touched. I am with the David Sanders Group a father of one of there dancers. My heart goes out to all of you. kalysta marie luca said:   July 27th, 2008 4:06 pm i wpould like to say that this site is amazing! ally would be so proud of you and her sister! i know that if she was here she would be extremly proud of her intier family! especially proud of her loveing and caring mother! i love you all so much and you have done so much to make her proud!! you are amazing!! Renee' Jamison said:   July 25th, 2008 9:01 pm this website is gorgous im so glad i finally got to check it out^_^ so much love for the gals with the biggest hearts... RJ Joey H said:   July 22nd, 2008 12:04 am woww this page is beautiful.. its my first time seeing it i havent been on a comp in months.. and its such a great way to spread the word that addiction cannot be takin lightly.. i miss your girll sooo so much and illnever forget her. she made such an impact on the the people that knew her no matter what kinda mood you were in once you were with her you became happy.... at this point of course i still miss her like crazy but you know shes lookin over us and would want us to be happy and living in her name.. i love your whole family and my heart goes out to you guys  Sharon S said:   July 17th, 2008 5:41 pm Nancy & Bob, Although I never had the privelege of knowing any of you personally...your Allyson was alot like my son. So young and caught in alife we never dreamed of. This is a great thing you are doing....spreading the message. If only one addicts life is saved, that's enough for me. I pray it's alot more. Love ya Nanc, Sharon S...your crazy friend in MO GIGI (Danielle's Aunt) said:   June 16th, 2008 7:16 pm I would just like to say, that Ashley, you are a very "sweet, kind, loving, person", and I can tell in the short time of getting to know you, that you have made your sister proud of you! Your sister is in a "better place" as they say, my prayers, and thoughts, will be with you and your family. What you and your mom have done, in spirit, and in tribute to your sister is an amazing thing. God Bless You ! Dani has told me so much about Ally, and JJ., she sounds like she contributed alot to the world in her short time upon this earth, it's not always what people give when they are here, but what they leave behind. You are so giving with what she has left behind to help others, that is what's important, keep on giving in her name, and God be with you! Gigi.  Danielle said:   June 14th, 2008 4:52 pm FANCY NANCY PANTS! Ally would be so proud of you esp. because she looks so fabulous in the picture on the main page =) and you are doing such an amazing thing, your just amazing ! Mike Zalusky said:   June 5th, 2008 1:07 pm You are truly beautiful people who were blessed with a beautiful daughter. My heart goes out to you, and I thank you for continuing the message that recovery IS possible when there is support and love. If you need anything from me, please, do not hesitate to ask. God Bless !! Mike Zalusky Outreach Services Oxford Houses of NJ Ph:732.693.8006 www.oxfordhouse.org Pat McKenna Herbaugh said:   May 29th, 2008 4:56 pm Bobby and Nancy, My heart and prayers go out to you and your family. I did not know your daughter but she had incredible genes...Thinking of you both and wishing you peace Love, Pat Jessica Ott said:   May 25th, 2008 7:16 pm mrs. joyce, this is a beautiful thing that you are doing and i love you for it. I loved Ally with all my heart she was like a sister to me just as you and mr. joyce and Ash are family to me. If there is anything i can do, any way to help I would love to. I love you all. Love, Jessie  Cindy smith said:   May 18th, 2008 9:22 pm I just wanted to say im sorry for your loss. I worked with Ally at buffalo blues. She was a real geniune person, i was just getting to know her. She was funny and beautiful. Im struggling with an addiction myself. This is a wonderful thing that your doing. Janice said:   May 17th, 2008 8:31 pm Hi, Nancy! What a beautiful site. You are an amazing women! I'm so proud of you. What a wonderful way to continue Ally's memory! Always remember: One Day At A Time! Your friend forever...Jan Cindy J said:   May 15th, 2008 9:06 pm Nancy....just beautiful. You are an amazing woman and Alli was so lucky to have you as a Mom....You know I'm there with you in whatever you need. Pat D said:   May 15th, 2008 7:36 pm Nancy, It takes a special person to set aside your pain and reach out to help others!! I will pray for your success in this udertaking and if there is anything I can do up here to help just let me know. Ally was a very beautiful girl and this is a wonderful way to pay tribute to her life. Love you alway Patty Davis said:   May 15th, 2008 11:29 am Hi Nancy, Just viewed your website. It's a beautiful tribute to Ally. My husband Jim and I are friends of Vinny and Joan. We lived in the Hawley/ Honesdale, Pa. area until we moved to Florida about 3 years ago. We used to fly into the Mount Pocono airport all the time, but our immediate area was the Cherry Ridge Airport.. Joan sent me this website, and like I said, it's beautiful... I pray that God will continue to comfort and bless you and your whole family.. It was nice talking to you... Sincerely, Jim & Patty Davis Theresa said:   May 15th, 2008 9:57 am Nancy, I don't know what to say you are so blessed with a gift to help others. What abeautiful way to honor Allyson. As you continue to heal please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers daily. Love Ya, Theresa...... Tess said:   May 15th, 2008 12:04 am Nancy, You never cease to amaze me!! A beautiful tribute to an amazing young woman. We are always here to help in anyway you see fit. Love, Tess and the girls xoxo Crystal M said:   May 12th, 2008 10:41 am Mrs. Joyce, I met Ally at Tippy's birthday party - what an Angel! I can't tell you how much your message hits home. A visit to your site, by invitation from your niece Michelle brought on a flood of tears and unleashed emotions that have been buried for quite some time. I have a younger brother battling drug addiction. He is a bright, loving, extremely intelligent and talented person. His addiction began years before we (my family) wanted to admit. It took a near fatal experience for my family to realize that we, too, were enablers - completely in denial. We are finally seeking the help we all need. Knowing that there are wonderful people like you who love your daughter so much that you're willing to share your experiences with others is immensely encouraging. I can't thank you enough. God bless! Kristy W. said:   May 10th, 2008 6:03 pm Hey nancy, this page is great. its awesome. i love it. just as much as i love ally. i love her and miss her so much. i never thought this day would come, and i never thought i would loose my best friend. and it kills me inside that we all lost her. she is such a great person inside and out and its killing me everyday that goes by that she isnt here with us. the last time i saw her she told me wat her plans were with phil and how in 2 years she was going to try and have kids and her and phil were going to get married and just knowing she wasnt able to do that hurts me. i love you all so much, and i cherich everything that you guys have done for me when we were growing up. like taking us to the libertyscience center for her birthday party. the little things you guys did means so much . i love you allyson and i miss you so much every day i miss you more . xoxo rip my sweet angel. i no your still here with us today , looking down on us and letting us know your okay. xoo xoo mama..  Maureen Cable said:   May 10th, 2008 5:02 pm Ally would be so proud of you. The fact that you can find something positive in this so soon after it happened is truly remarkable and says a lot about who you are as a person. I am honored to have known Ally and I would be honored to contribute anything I can to you and your family. Tippy is spreading the word to everyone she can about the website and your efforts and I will do the same. Nickole B. said:   May 10th, 2008 2:03 pm It's truly amazing that something so wonderful like the Can You Hear Me Foundation can come out of such tragedy. I think that Ally would be very happy to know her story will be able to help so many people with addiction! God bless Ally and her family!! Jennifer McWhirter said:   May 10th, 2008 12:49 pm Hi Nancy, Tippy sent me to this site, and my immediate response to her was "your aunt is AMAZING." And you truly are. This foundation will undoubtedly help those afflicted, and prevent many more. I still remember the first time i met Ally years ago. She definitely had that sparkle in her eye that drew people to LOVE her and want to be around her. I miss her tremendously, we all do. You are doing a truly admirable thing here, and I would be honored to help in any way possible. You and your family are in my prayers. Michelle Joyce said:   May 10th, 2008 12:27 pm you did a GREAT job!!!! the website is amazzzzing!!!! i LOVE u so much!!! all of you... xoxo -tippy Kristin D. said:   May 9th, 2008 9:00 pm This Website is absolutely Amazing. This is a great way to Honor my Best Friend In the whole entire world. It is also an excellent way to teach and help others who are suffering with the same disease.. addiction. I just have to tell everyone that when you do drugs, you are not only hurting yourself, but you are hurting everyone around you. So please think twice before you are about to do something that can change the rest of your life. I love Allyson so much and now she is my Guardian Angel who is still with me every single day. Great job on this Nancy, you will save many lives. I love you! Pat said:   May 8th, 2008 8:42 am What a beautiful tribute to your daughter!!! Her demons are gone, and to try to help someone else with their's is so beautiful. Rich and I would be so honored to help in anyway to help with the foundation, please let us know. With all our Love and Admiration----  Christine Genardi said:   May 7th, 2008 9:23 pm Nancy ~ It takes a very special person to find the positive in such a tragic loss. You are truly amazing! Even though I didn't know Allyson that well in life, I feel like I have a special angel with me now. I will carry a little piece of her forever in my heart. Many blessings to you always... Chris Marissa said:   May 6th, 2008 1:28 pm WOW Nancy this is awesome its B E A UTIFUL... Ally would be so proud, and shes looking down right now saying "I have my own page, thats my pic" lol I cant wait to help you and get involved with the Can U Hear Me Foundation... I love you xoxo Rest In Piece Ally I love you and miss you very much... you'll never be forgotten, your always in my heart, love your foster sister xoxo LYNN K said:   May 6th, 2008 11:54 am NANCY, THIS IS SO LOVELY, ANYTHING JOE OR I CAN DO, JUST CALL. LET ME KNOW ABOUT THE DANCE IN 08 AND WE WILL HELP OUT. HOPE YOU ENJOYED THE BANANNA BREAD. LYNN love you all stephanie b. said:   May 3rd, 2008 6:45 am nancy, this made me cry.this is a great idea and is going to do great things for peoples lives. Fiona said:   May 2nd, 2008 9:22 am I just wanted to say I think this a wonderful way to honor Allyson. You have certainly found a way to find a positive light on such a sad situation. You will be doing a HUGE service to A LOT of people who struggle with the same problem. It will definitly save lives. I have been thinking of Ali and your family. If there is some way I can help, I'd really like to. God Bless You!

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